You want a baby? Me too!!!!

So it is always nice when you go on a site to find out that you have someone that wants to talk to you.  It is really a very flattering feeling.  It's that whole "somebody wants me!!!" euphoria. Of course that doesn't mean that YOU really want that person be and thank goodness for that.  So my first "suitor" was a real doozy that's for sure.

Now this connection took place on Match.com and were a good match, though to be honest I am not sure what percentage we had in regards to matching.  He winked at me first and then I sent him and email.  Honestly why do you wink at someone?  I don't understand that if you actually have the subscription to the site, if not then it is for free and the only way you can communicate.  Anyways, I sent this guy and email and he sent one back right away.

His first email to me was "You want a baby? Me too!!!" and that was it.  Nothing else, including no name.  And on this site you have a username not an actual name. Which is kinda creepy because really there are screen names like luvnpsy69 is really gonna get you a date with me.But you know me, always willing to go out on a limb and take a chance, especially when it comes to crazy people looking for love in all the wrong places, so I emailed him back.  I told him that I did want one, but it was not a requirement and really I wasn't looking to get pregnant right away, usually something comes with the baby, i.e. romance, love, marriage.

Well then continued on a series of emails back and forth about things we are looking for in a relationship and a couple of times I had to tell him that he was really coming on too strong. He apologized, said he was just so excited to meet someone, etc etc.  So I cut him some slack, he was older, had been divorced for a couple of years.... Well I should have just decided to let it go because it went downhill from there.

The top 5 reasons you know the guy is not being honest about his relationship status:

1. He says he cant talk on the phone cause he has roommates.
2. He says he wants to meet but he just isn't sure when.
3. He's extremely happy you are talking to him, but really wants to talk dirty to you.
4. Do you have any pics?
5. He never tells you his name.

Needless to say I never talked to him again.  Though he did pop up 2 weeks later and ask me what was up, I blocked him.  All hail the mighty block.

And it comes together perfectly?

Now of course not everything in life is super easy.  There wouldn’t be any fun then. However, these sites make it seem so simple that all you have to do is just sit down, answer some questions about what is important to you and viola a perfect match will be made. Yeah, that isn’t how this works.  In fact I am not even sure that there are actual people on these sites and I will tell you why.

Eharmony says they have so many new members joining each day, yet surprisingly I am given between 2-7 new “matches” each day.  I find it a little hard to believe that that many members are joining each day and Eharmony says they give me the matches as soon as the members join.  So why didn’t I have a bunch right when I first started?  Also, of course you can join for free, so I really think many of these men go on to the site, take a look around and see what is out there. Then if they find someone they are interested in they join.  After all, I seem to get many people that don’t respond at all.

And yes there is a nice option to “close match” if you are not interested in the person. Which I think is seldom used since I am “communicating” with over 100 people and only a handful have actually closed the match.  (In order to be fair I have actually responded to each person I have been matched with, besides I am willing to give anyone a chance.)

Of course match is the same thing, except you don’t have to actually join to “wink” at people.  Though I have heard you actually have to pay money to see the people’s pictures.  Needless to say they send me mutual matches each day based on some “ranking” system they have.  You will hear about some of those “ranked” people eventually, I am really just giving you some background about the sites now, to help draw you in.

This site also has a few other options that are not available on the other site.  They have a “singled out” category where they think you and this person are especially right for each other, and yes don’t worry you will hear about one of those. They also have “Like at first sight” which is basically they show you a bunch of guys pictures to see what you like appearance wise and then find you matches on that. 

Personally, I was more than happy to just look at all the eye candy.  I can only imagine most guys like that option just to look at all the pretty women. Kind of a mug shot test for hotties! Yum!

Needless to say I have gotten a number of people that are “matched” with me, just not as many with Eharmony. However there are plenty to go around, make no mistake about that.  Tune in next time for an actual encounter with one of my “matches”.

In the beginning...

So I decided that I was going to try and test out the dating sites.  Many people have tried them and some found true love and others found an expensive Craigslist.  I thought I would try it out for myself.  And so I signed up...sat and thought about the questions they asked me and answered as honestly as I thought that I could. And so I looked forward to see who maybe would be matched with me.

Now to be honest I signed up for both of the leading sites.  I decided that I was not going to do any more than that and once the membership was over then I would be done.  So far here are some of the interesting things that I have found:

• Men care about what carrier you are on so they can use their mobile to mobile minutes to talk with you instead of regular minutes!
• Even though your profile says you have children, they don't understand that it means you cannot rush out of the house at a moments notice just to meet them for a drink.
• Some men have no idea if they HAVE children or not! Yes this is true, on the profile is kids: yes or no or on the other site is kids: NO, YES, Yes, but not at home, or yes, and they are sometimes at home. Many times guys put no, but then mention their kids in their profile.
• Really your high school yearbook picture IS NOT the ONLY picture of yourself you can find if you are over the age of 18.

So again just some simple things that I realized may not be so simple on this journey.  Already I have plenty of material for this blog so far and I am only about a month into my subscription.  So hopefully you will find some interesting things on here.